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Being a virgin later in life can be, perhaps above all things, an incredibly isolating experience. Some people grew up in religious communities or single-sex schools, which made sex more elusive or taboo. Other people felt unattractive or insecure growing up. Struggles with health, sexual orientation, and gender dysphoria were also common. For almost every single person, the biggest worry was not being good at sex, a very normal concern no matter when you lose your virginity. The longer you wait, the more experience potential partners likely have—and that disparity can heap on more pressure.

Illustration by Erin Aniker. My First Time is a column and podcast series exploring sexuality, gender, and kink with the wide-eyed curiosity of a virgin. We all know your "first time" is about a lot more than just popping your cherry. From experimenting with kink to just trying something new and wild, everyone experiences thousands of first times in the bedroom—that's how sex stays fun, right?

But how does it feel to be a virgin in your 30s and 40s? I only recently fell in love properly for the first time. He seems to accept me exactly as I am. I feel like we are soulmates.

He was speaking at the school. From R. Kelly 's rumored romance with year-old singer Aaliyah to rocker Ted Nugent falling for year-old Pele Massa in -- and becoming her legal guardian because she was too young to marry him -- relationships between older men and younger girls never fail to make us squirm. This squeamishness is understandable: Hutchison is nearly old enough to be Stodden's grandfather. In 12 U.