A medical journal starts it off by announcing a study comparing teens who take a pledge of virginity until marriage with those who don't. Lo and behold, when they crunch the numbers, they find not much difference between pledgers and nonpledgers: most do not make it to the marriage bed as virgins. And on it goes. In other words, teens will be teens, and moms or dads who believe that concepts such as restraint or morality have any application today are living in a dream world. Typical was the lead for the CBS News story: "Teenagers who take virginity pledges are no less sexually active than other teens, according to a new study.
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Sometimes it might seem like everyone in school is talking about who's a virgin, who isn't, and who might be. For both girls and guys, the pressure sometimes can be intense. But deciding whether it's right for you to have sex is one of the most important decisions you'll ever have to make. Each person must use his or her own judgment and decide if it's the right time — and the right person. This means considering some very important factors — both physical ones, like the possibility of becoming pregnant or getting a sexually transmitted disease STD — and emotional factors, too. Though a person's body may feel ready for sex, sex also has very serious emotional consequences.
Keith McDorman walks into the back room of an Austin, Texas coffee shop. With his dirty-blond hair, light eyes, week-old beard, and striped button-down shirt, he looks like a younger, shorter, bohemian version of Bradley Cooper. He tosses his scooter helmet onto the wooden table, sits across from me at a booth that barely fits us both, and talks before I ask a question. That statement brings glances from studying college students.
I haven't lost my virginity yet, though I think out of my group of about eight girls, only two of us are still virgins. It can be quite difficult, because when they talk about sex I don't really have anything to contribute. Instead, I ask questions, so I guess it's kind of educational. They're all very easy about it; I don't feel under any pressure to have sex.