Despite what you see on TV and in movies, having sex for the first time is rarely romantic, pleasant, or sexy. Sure, it can be—in theory. It was with my boyfriend on our one-year anniversary. My anxiety got the best of me, and I freaked out and told him to stop after the first thrust. Plus, I was the first one of my friends to have sex, so no one could tell me what to expect. A week later, we did it for real, and I felt cool for finally doing it.
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I suspected that a world of sexual pleasure existed just beyond my grasp and if I could just lose my pesky virginity then I could revel in its carnal delights. Was this going to hurt? Should I put towels down? No amount of porn or Judy Blume novels can truly prepare you for the first time you have sex; here are some of things I really wish I had known. I lost my virginity to a kind, funny and attractive man he was also older than me, which was mega hot. I felt safe, calm and cared for, and that was enough.
How to make your first time as comfortable and un-awkward as possible
Your first time having sex can be the subject of a lot of excitement, but it can also carry feelings of fear or anxiety. Mostly, though, it's hard to imagine what it will actually be like when it happens. For many of us, the only conception we have of our first time is what we see in the movies, but those portrayals don't very often get it right — especially when it comes to the first time.
Unless the stars align in a very fortuitous way, your first time is likely to be a bit awkward. But with the Guyliner's advice and points to consider, you'll have the best version of a formative experience. Driving lessons, cooking a meal, karaoke — practice makes perfect. And what else can instill as much fear, dread and