Mom dressed like a slut

On Jan. Ronda Bessner, who attended the session, remembered being surprised by what the officer suggested to women. YFS vice-president Darkshika Selvasivam, who did not attend the session, also expressed shock upon hearing the comments. After the session, Bessner spoke with students and student organizations and noted they, too, expressed concerns about the comment.

As if being judged over our parenting choices isn't enough, the media and Internet also love to comment on what women with kids wear on a daily basis. Wearing leggings as pants or pajamas in public is an absolute no-no, but women with kids who chose to show a little skin are considered to be "trying too hard" or called straight-up "slutty" for their outfit choices. No matter how the woman wearing the clothes looks or feels about herself, her body and the clothing she chooses to put on it becomes fodder for a public vote. I'm not sure why, but it doesn't make much sense to me: we ask women not to "lose themselves" in motherhood, we applaud them when they "get their bodies back," and yet we shame them when the very thing they choose to do with those bodies — dress in clothing that makes them look and feel good — doesn't fit our cultural understanding of what a mom should wear.

There's always one in the bunch: The sexy mom with the tousled hair, perfect boobs, toned arms, long legs and solid butt all in one package and always showcased all at once. I do love her. If you've got it, go for it woman. She's in a low-cut blouse at the school fundraiser, tight jeans at the park, spiked heels at the toddler's birthday party.

If you're asking "What is slut shaming? September 9, Rebecca Sedwick , 12, jumped to her death after being tormented relentlessly about how far she'd gone with a boy she had dated. December 9, Jessica Laney , 16, hung herself after being called a slut and whore online.