Women Warm Up Faster to Gay Men Than Straight Guys, Study Suggests
There are several things that a woman can still say or do in everyday life that could be considered bigoted. When you meet a guy you didn't realize was gay, look for something else to comment on. Throw him a compliment.
For many gay men, using these words with their friends is a way of embracing femininity and showing vulnerability or affection to others who share their identities. Creating a shared culture — including language — around femininity can be a way of reclaiming the bases for oppression many gay men have experienced, as well as disrupting the harmful gender binary. But few if any linguistic practices are all one thing, all the time. In a culture where women and femininity have long been denigrated and belittled, there is a danger that cis men using these words can perpetuate some of these negative tropes.