By all accounts, Shira Neuberger seemed to be living a happy life. She had a handsome husband, two beautiful daughters and a pretty suburban home outside Philadelphia. But last year, she stunned neighbors in her small town by splitting with her husband of seven-and-a-half years and inviting a new partner into her home. Even more shocking to those around her, her new love was not another man -- but a woman.
Dear Abby: Wife in lesbian love affair resolves to end marriage to much older man
Spouses of Gay Men and Lesbians May Be the Last to Know
Half of married gay women in Minnesota are forced to adopt their own children under Minnesota law. In , same-sex marriage became legal. The legal inequity is the result of other laws — with gender-specific language — that were never changed when same-sex marriage was legalized. Outside of gay-rights advocates and the affected parents themselves, the situation appears to have received little public attention, until now. It took 11 months for Nikki Graf to become the legal mother of her daughter, Logan, by adopting her. The adoption process meant Nikki asked friends to write character references for her to a court, and she had to be fingerprinted. And not free.
Advice: Before telling your husband anything, discuss this with a divorce lawyer. Leaving him may be complicated because you have been his sole support for a while. I have recently realized I'm gay and have fallen in love with another woman. Although Joe isn't infirm or mentally deficient, he has a hard time making decisions on his own. He'll read something, hand it to me and ask me what I think.
Not everyone is gifted with gaydars, that incredible ability to sense if someone is a homosexual just by one glance. But imagine this: what if you fall in love with a woman—and even marry her—without knowing that she is, in fact, a lesbian? Mind you, many a man has tied the knot with a lesbian without knowing. It is heartbreaking for a man to find out that he has a lesbian wife. Especially if that man is you.