Erotic knot tieing

Skip navigation! Story from Sex Tips. Have you ever thought about tying your partner up with rope? Or being tied up yourself?

My First Time is a column and podcast series exploring sexuality, gender, and kink with the wide-eyed curiosity of a virgin. We all know your "first time" is about a lot more than just popping your cherry. From experimenting with kink to just trying something new and wild, everyone experiences thousands of first times in the bedroom—that's how sex stays fun, right? This week we're talking to performance artist Gestalta about the Japanese practice of shibari. I got into shibari as an accident. I had a fairly strict religious upbringing, and then I left home at 18 and discovered the internet for the first time.

Welcome to Shibari , your chance to learn the building blocks of Japanese rope bondage! For me, the methodical repetition and precise structure of rope bondage is calming. I get off on the bottom both giving up control and having fun. For a bottom, being restrained can also feel very calming.

Rope bondage is made up of many different ties; but the first one anyone should learn is the single column tie. By writing this post, I figured out what my three favourite single column ties were, and why. Why columns?