Carnal Calibration is a questionnaire designed for you to air all of your sexual fantasies with no limits. Simply run through a list of questions, and scenarios answering yes, no or maybe and have your partner do the same. If your kinks and quirks match up, they will be visible at the end of your session. No awkward conversations neccessary. Please use a name that your partner will recognize as yours.
Black leather? Christian Grey? White-hot pain? Kink can look any way you want it to. The premise behind this list is one of the fundamentals to any kind of kink: communication.
Many people equate BDSM with abuse, but in fact that community can teach us a lot of great lessons about healthy relationships. You might be shaking your head in consternation right about now. But playing with power dynamics or intense physical sensation is not the same as being abusive , violent, or controlling. In one of my previous lives, I worked for several years as a sex educator for a feminist sex shop. While I was relatively open-minded, I had a lot to learn.
Inventories of who we are, lists of our favorite things, itemized receipts of what we have done on the way to where we want to be fascinate me because they offer a roadmap to understanding someone. Who they are, the experiences that have shaped them. Check out my general, depersonalized answers here. I think all of them are great conversation starters and can produce some very revealing insights. The answers can be dissected on a couple of levels; asking a partner what superpower they would prefer to have, for example, reveals who they are apart from the image they are trying to project.